When you want to do something, but you’re not sure if it’s the right decision.

Consider:

• Ask yourself:
  • What do you want to feel when you lay your head on your pillow tonight?
  • What decision will make you feel that way?
  • What will make you feel most proud at the end of the day?

• Notice any defensiveness to one choice or another. Notice any internal protest or excuses: “But it’s not bad! You’re too strict!”
  Consider how interesting this is! Ask yourself:
  • Why are you so resistive?
  • Why are you so attached to this thing?
  • Why does it bother you so much for it to be taken away?
  • For what purpose, really, did you want this in the first place?

• Use your reaction to help you make the best decision.
  • If it’s not a “big” deal. If it’s “not bad,” as you say, then why the outrage? Why the strong reaction to denying yourself this small and simple thing?
  • Remind yourself that what you least feel like doing in the moment is often what makes you happiest.

Tags: impulse/craving, self-doubt