By Rachel Miller

January 7, 2022

How can you achieve your goals without brute force and willpower? Is there a way to make it easier?

By Rachel Miller

December 28, 2021

Some days it feels like you have an insatiable desire for more and more--it feels like nothing satisfies you fully. Try an experiment.

By Rachel Miller

December 17, 2021

At the end of a long day or week, when you just want to go home and turn your brain off, how do you ensure you make choices you are proud of? How do you prevent a setback before it happens?

By Rachel Miller

December 10, 2021

What if you could eat your cake and feel even more empowered than abstaining altogether? Try an experiment.

By Rachel Miller

August 10, 2021

Consider, some days you feel needier than others–some days you want more, crave more, feel more. For instance, when you’re tired, following a night of poor sleep; you will find on this particular day you desire more, seek more comfort. You enter the day primed with a feeling of scarcity and pervasive need, and it’s […]

By Rachel Miller

July 16, 2021

When, and if ever, does it get easier, this practice of self-denial, of deferring gratification? Does daily, multiple-times-a-day practice eventually make a difference? Does it get easier over time? One thing I know is this: the intensity of desire, of wanting, remains strong, but it doesn’t move you like it did before. It’s immediate and […]

By Rachel Miller

April 30, 2021

If you want something that you don’t want to want, and you still want it anyway. If you’ve tried to deter yourself, and it’s one of those times you know you’re going to do it anyway, make a choice, and do it deliberately. Rebel consciously. If it goes against your better judgment, then do it […]

By Rachel Miller

April 23, 2021

When you want something that you don’t really want, don’t want to want, consider, what will you want one hour from now? You don’t need to look so far into the future. It’s hard to perceive the gratification you will experience one month from now; it’s hard to really picture what it will feel like, […]

By Rachel Miller

February 12, 2021

Notice when you have that feeling, that urge, for something—something to do or to consume—in order to feel better. When you have that restlessness, that pressing drive for comfort. In the background of your mind, you’ll find, it’s there: a quiet prompting of what you should do, what will be most effective to provide lasting […]