Eat Your Cake and Feel Empowered!

by Rachel Miller

December 10, 2021

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When you make an effort to eat well, it’s easy to get caught up in labelling food as “good” and “bad.” You can feel guilty for having something “bad” or that you don’t “deserve.” Even when you know this is stupid, you can still feel guilty about it. Like you need to “do better” or “be good” tomorrow. Is there a way to enjoy a treat and not feel guilty about it? And even more so, is there a way to feel good about eating it? Is there a way to have your cake and feel even more empowered than abstaining altogether?


  • The treat itself isn’t the problem, but your thoughts around it. Why do you want this thing? What is your aim? What you think and how you feel about that food choice determines how you feel when you eat it.

  • Make a conscious choice. Sometimes you face conflicting priorities: you want the cake, but you feel it will conflict with your goal. Think of it as less about “should I” or “shouldn’t I” and more about “How can I?” How can you have this item and maintain progress towards your goal?

  • Create a plan: eat one serving, share it with someone, save it for tomorrow–whatever you decide, stick with your plan. Following through on your plan is what will provide the ultimate satisfaction. It will be more challenging, but it’s more empowering to have your cake and eat it—with a plan!—rather than abstain completely. Try it out as an experiment and see!

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Comments (1)

  1. Edie Jamieson says:

    Yes! So true! Sounds like the NOOM eating platform…. You could’ve invented it 😉!

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