How to Do What You Don’t Feel Like Doing (and Enjoy it!)

by Rachel Miller

October 22, 2021

ABOVE :Javier Allegue Barros

When you have that feeling of absolute, zero-want-to-do-something—something you ideally would like to do, but it feels almost joke-worthy of how worst-timing it is at present. Where in the moment every fibre of your being doesn’t want to do this thing and every reasonable excuse is available to you to not have to do it. When you have this experience, just pause for a moment.

It can feel almost impossible to make a decision, especially when you have real reasons why you don’t need to. It can feel almost painful to choose the right decision, especially when you’d be completely justified in choosing otherwise. It can be very, very hard to choose the right decision, but the right decision doesn’t have to mean sacrificing your joy in the process.


  • It’s in living that we find fulfillment. It’s in doing that we experience joy. When you look back on your most memorable moments, what do you see?
    • Active engagement in meaningful tasks
    • Shared experiences with others
    • Connection
    • What do you not see? Sitting in front of the TV, scrolling through your phone

  • Which moment will provide you the greatest opportunity to create a meaningful experience? Which experience will be most fulfilling? Which decision will you be most satisfied in making? What feels hard now but deep down you know is the right thing to do? No matter how little you feel like doing that thing, no matter how strongly you don’t want to do it, consider doing it anyway. Recall that what you least feel like doing often provides the greatest reward.

  • Use this as an opportunity to experiment and see if you can make this one experience memorable—gratifying, even. Experiement and see what happens when you make the best decision—even when you have every sound reason to do otherwise. Just this one time—try it as an experiment.

Fast Forward:

It is fascinating how rewarding a thing can be when everything in you groaned in agony at the thought of it before! Commit to memory the outcome. Call it to mind for future reoccurrence. Recall that having every reasonable excuse to say “no” doesn’t mean you should say no. Feelings have no bearing on the gratification that can result from an experience. On the contrary, you will find that the reward gained in doing what’s best—what’s most important—consistently surprises you and yields far greater satisfaction than doing what you feel.

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