Stop Negative Self-Talk

by Rachel Miller

February 22, 2022

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Some days the negative thoughts are more pervasive than others. It’s like a constant badgering of your mind, a constant belittling of yourself.


  • Those negative voices will always be there, lingering in the back of your mind, waiting for you to summon your attention to them. And that’s the key: They need you to pay attention to them. They’re powerless on their own. They cannot affect you unless you pay attention to them.

  • There’s a strange phenomenon called the “focusing illusion,” by Daniel Kahnman, that suggests that whatever you pay attention to, you automatically view as important. It’s your attention that makes that thing seem true, even if it’s not.

  • Focus on the other thoughts that linger in the back of your mind: the small thoughts that maybe you are worthy. You are capable. You can do it. Choose to focus on what serves you, what benefits you, what strengthens you.

  • You may not be able to control when those negative thoughts arise, but you can always choose your focus. Focus on what else is true, instead. Focus on the best that is possible.

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