If you aren’t happy, it’s never because of something you don’t have, but something you aren’t doing.

Consider:

• Give what YOU value most.
  • Some days that might be your time;
  • Other days that might be something small you own or like.

• Use what you value as your indicator of what to give:
  • When you notice any hesitancy towards giving something, use that as your cue to DEFINITELY give it.

• It’s not about self-sacrifice but giving the RIGHT things–and often, it’s those small moments of time and simple things you want to hold onto that are most fulfilling to give.

• The only way to be happy is to accept that you are responsible.

• Take 100% responsibility — for everything.
  • Only look for your role in a situation. No matter how small.
  • Every decision, every choice, every situation in every relationship.
  • Actively look for what part you played: your choice of perspective or interpretation of what happened.
    

• Aggressively look for the best:
  • What else is true about this situation?
  • What other possibilities exist?
  • Determine to see things differently. State this to yourself: I am determined to see (how this person responded to me) differently.

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